There is the wisdom perhaps that sadness does not mean we are unhappy. Life is often sad for a lot of people. It was only despairing to me for 20 years which is way worst I tell you. But sadness is part of life. This universe aches and we ache with it, our Mother, in many ways. How can i say i am pretty happy even though I am sad? I am in total (almost I would say) peace.