Coffee was just made. Hubby left. As Palmo says'it is easy to be loving to those who are loveable. But to be kind and extend patience to someone who is totally obnoxious, it is much harder. ' 

But she says it is necessary like a spiritual friend can be, to make us exercice our compassion muscle. To be smooth we need sand paper! We are like rough wood. Caressing oursleves with silk and velvet is nice but does not make us smoother.