But isn't lovely she is still alive? I have met her best form so far: a nice superficial but kindly intentioned lady. oh sorry. i just cant get over the fact that they only go for lunches where it costs 90$ for two for not much food. THE so called most snobby retsuarant in their hometown. Yet they were ultra miser with their money with me, who had none. So a bit annoyed at mother maybe for a good reason. She is obsessed with 'never taking the burden of others'. So that always always depresses me when my parents think like that. i find it meak.