She is a huge proponent of sobriety and not drinking at all. That is mostly how she lives now at 84.

She cannot understand why I dont give the bottle up. I do harm reduction and have weeks at a time where I dont drink. One week usually.

I am also not always drinking to be smashed and wild. Sometimes just one drink.

She told me to give up drinking for a month. That thanks to our will, this can be learned as a new behaviour.