to one self, it is not because we are upset and traumatized by whatever nasty traumas somewhere along the way, that we can treat others like garbage. Sure, we have a huge excuse. But treating loved ones like garabge just because we are fucked up is usually bad. even is we are simply sick, we MUST apologize sincerely and get right to talking privately with god to try to see what can be done so we have more kindness despite our upsets and traumas. Those who are special will forgive our outburst. The average canadian will shut you down and never speak to you again. Even if they have been friends for 35 years. True story.

There is this OBSESSION online every which way in america to dump whomever makes you feel bad. Any relationship at all. I am sorry to say that is the utter most disappointing attitude to encourage in any one. we are here to learn to love as Pope francis said. dumping friends and  lovers just because they are difficult is so stupid unless they truly are not yours to keep. But know that many difficult people are actually marvelous once they heal. Do you want to heal together with someone or help someone heal that you want to live with? Or do you want to dump everyone at the first sign of them uspetting you? be careful what you ingest as propganda of deep roots of  selfishness and ignorance in all this self love, self help talk online we see.