wow,i am so sorry if I give you all the wrong impression of hubby.
What I describe is atrocious at times....I hope no one judges and understands no one is perfect. I would say many families are way less at ease than us all together overall daily and for the last 30 years.
At ease with each other I mean.
You have to understand that hubby, like me, is intense.
Right now, he is a bit of a weirdo with me but we are all weird and innefficient if we think we dont have to change or that change is not part of life on earth.