Hubby came inside , chatted than saw my coffee and extended his arm and say'give me your coffee'.  I stopped him softly andf said' please, my darling wife?'. He refused to say it and went without coffee- he turned away from it out of pride I guess or something fucked up! ha h ah ah...I did find that pathetic.

An excuse to be kind to me and he turns it down because it bothers him for some reason or another.  He rarely says please and usually is rather rude. there is no showing him the good correct way: he is blinded by foolishness and ignorance. And refuses gentle kind play to show him the way to better (i.e. kinder) communication.