Once you realize people are not very evolved psychologically and in their experiential heart mind, you must forgive EVERYTHING. Pity comes in helpfully in the equation of peace. I pity myself too for my mind so ordinary and not particularly  gifted though crazy at times when I drink. Pity is very helpful and deeper ways to heal have not been found. Om muni muni mahamuni yeh svoha

We must love each other as we are at each moment- forgiveness is essential in any relationships of some depth.