However, I think he seems very very misinformed when he says other people cannot cause you traumas, only yourself can. I was broken at a young age from bad parenting. I have healed and now everyone loves each other very nicely. But the traumas, all along my adult life too, were very real and NOT cause by me.

Please, be kinder with the sufferings of your fellow men and women and children. We are not invincible and we can very much be broken by others. God heals us: we do too, our lovers do and life does.