Hubby is super duper in shock of stress.

His narcissism is obviously a fault but more like a disease.

In Truth he is not like that: it is his defense mechanism from never having understood his mother as a young boy. I guess his sisters were there each time he cried so he cried a lot. This is why and how he became a narcissistic: he had tenderness only when his sisters were coming to his aid when he cried. I truly have no idea what I am saying right now, phil. I think I am just exploring something...