BJG tells me fuck you many times when he is upset and never ever apologizes. Because I was freaking out Hardy had escaped, because he let him out unsupervised while cooking, he acts as if that is the biggest evil ever done unto him, to tell him fuck you,for being so unreasonable and unsafe with the cat when I am freaking out about it all. No forgiveness, double standards all the way too. He is OBSESSED with being respected. More than being loved. This is a disease of our times I am pretty sure.